Do Muslims stand for wife-beating?
A one sentence answer is: It is an Islamophobic narrative. Actual problem of Domestic violence is not a Muslim-issue at all. Interestingly, it is a Western-issue. Domestic violence in Australia kills 1 women a week thru the year and in the USA it is at the rate of 3 killed each day. It is as we can see a plague within Western societies. The media has been very successful to make it sound, like it is a Muslim-issue. It is appalling that some Muslim organisation fall prey and feel obliged to explain this by quoting 6th century expose of using a Siwak (natural tooth brush) implying mere symbolism. When Quran uses the term to beat, it means beating. Period. Of-course not to the point of inflicting harm. But, perhaps to show full-dislike in any matter in this context.
The media and the political fringe who unnecessarily drag this issue as only a Muslim-concern deserve rebuke. For not having honestly highlighted the plight of Western women who grimly face bashing and in many cases death before their partners or ex-partners. Domestic violence isn’t a Muslim issue at all. Wake-up! It is not because Muslims believe whatever or mistreat their women Westerners are found to follow suit. The idea rather communicated in the Western media about progressive society is a false claim! It sounds as if women in Western societies are never abused: but, the statistics reveal quite damaging figures. Which is sufficient to completely undermine what gets stated as popular rhetoric on the media and in various forums, just to feel good.
Domestic Violence Stats-
Australia: Read stats here.
United States of America: Shown.
Domestic violence is a societal problem in many countries. But in the Muslim world it is divinely ordained and justified by the Quran, claims wikiislam. Islamophobia of this nature to tarnish and vandalise Quran has been an old strategy. But the evidential findings of human behaviour are enough to scrap those files. Why did God in Quran order wife-beating while the Western’s suffer the same syndrome without divine ordinance?
The scenario in USA is the worst as we can see about 3 deaths per day, which is already extreme! This is clearly a sad state of affairs for Women in the “civilised” Western world. Yet many ill-informed are quick to pass judgement on Islam. It is conceivable that Muslims like any other people on earth can be involved in domestic violence; but to kill partners is a different ball altogether, of what I know a Muslim wouldn’t like to game. Overwhelming majority of Muslims honour and respect their wives and of-course would feel and like to be in-control as the head of the house. Let us find out, how Quran exhorts a Muslim man to treat his wife.
Background and Context
Domestic violence against women can be explained by the raw manly rage against them for their weaker physical make. Instead of protecting the weaker gender we try to compare apples and oranges on this issue. And falsely accuse Islam of giving unequal recognition to women as opposed to men. Since ancient times women have suffered, societies have been patriarchal and they continue to be even today. Sadly, feminist language hasn’t aided women’s predicament.
When it comes to mistreating women. Westerner’s are in the forefront: racing crimes against them. Women are peer-pressured to remain attractive or they risk being dumped! Surge in plastic surgeries for beauty of the bosoms and bums speak loud. Undoubtedly 14 centuries ago women in Arabia endeared subjective mistreatment: burying the female children alive was the then equivalent of today’s female infanticide. By God’s grace, since Islam female rights in Arabia were elevated. Merits of women are many in Islam and their rights argued by God Himself. God has clearly warned Muslims of the grave punishments awaiting for mistreating or oppressing the feminine gender. It is unfortunate that Saudis today do not make a representative body of Islam.
Explanation of Quran 4.34
Quran 4:34 Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance – [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.
Rendering meaning- O’ women bear in mind that I have given man the charge over you by awarding them greater strength and have admonished them to spend their earnings over your necessities. So therefore be good to them by devoting obedience and guard yourselves for them in loyalty. In case if you become unmanageable; I but, have to legitimise their stronger approach against you. But, still I’m your procurator: in that I recommend them to resort to admonish you before anything of their strength does any harm unto you. Then O’ men if you find them in continued arrogance do forsake their beds during nights such that they may perhaps become humble before any of your might could inflict any harm unto them.
God in Quran intervenes into human-affairs by ways that are agreeable to us
God in his immense wisdom intercepts into human affairs by ways that are agreeable to humans. Otherwise, humans would just be uncommitted to follow God. Of the many family matters concerning individual attitudes even governments find it most difficult and impossible to regulate personal affairs. Concerning how one must behave inside their chambers is never for any law to interfere. Yet, God from a far-off position has managed to counsel believing families as to-how individuals must treat each other. Quranic teachings are for a range of believers and various social cultures. Gentlemen do not abuse women in any circumstances. Even if it be to divorce them for arrogance they would do it setting a commendable example. But, what of those who are rogue? Westerner’s aren’t in any better position to help protect women. One can only appeal and institute best education. Believe me this is the limit! Wisely, God has introduced safety protocols tailored to protect women. By bringing the manly rage into God’s direct control. His divine directives like Quran 4:34 exist to achieve this very purpose! Instructing us to either obey or be susceptible to sin for disobeying. Naturally, disobedience amounts to severe accountability in afterlife and can lead to Hell. Clearly, therefore this verse stages God as the procurator, aiding women to safety from the brutality of man.
Are there alternatives?
While men are known to beat their wives/partners. Can it be avoided? What do you suggest God or any recommended agency to help avoid abuse of women. Should God or the agency sever man’s physical abilities for beating his wife? Or, do you reason better alternatives, O’ men of knowledge- Reflect! Wisely, God has intercepted: as you can read in Quran 4:34. Convincingly, averting the chances of men apprehending their partners in fury.
Wife-beating for some is only to fix breaking relationships
Per Quran man is so tied that it is incumbent on him to resort to consulting and avoiding sharing beds with his wife/partner before any attempts to beat. This means there is time to reflect upon the conflict that is entailing between them. Both parties who remain upset with each other, get time to reflect over it during those nights. This implies that in civilised societies it can be drafted to be brought to the notice of the law. So that in case a man ends up to beat; to explain his clear position: he could be exempted penalty unless otherwise if harm is inflicted. In violation to what is proposed and taught by God to be observed men can be charged by law-enforcement for trespassing protection against God’s subjects in a matter explained.
Beating is understood to be brief. It is similar to how law allows beating children. Bruise less beating is only the expression of a clear disregard. Beating can never be condoned to inflict harm. If by beating: a women suffers damage of what gets decided to be accountable for- Shariah (Islamic law) would necessitate women seek equal rebate against the offender. Which in any known Western governments is not drafted. Period. If women suffer, they really suffer and governments have nothing to help women avenge her offender.
But God informs: If women do agree to be manageable do not pursue against them any annoyance- God is Exalted and Grand for their aid.
Equality in Quran
Quran 4:19 O believing people, you are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should you treat them with harshness… on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them it may be that you dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.
Prophet Muhammad’s narrations, blessings on him
- The best of you are those who are the best to their wives, and I am the best of you to my wives.
- Fear God with regards to women, for you have taken them as a trust from God and intimacy with them has become permissible to you by the words of God.
In Islam, God does not introduce wife-beating. But Quran is perchance found regulating the manly rage against her. Clearly advocating care and subtle safety protocols in her favour. Perhaps Quranic injunctions can aid a great deal of safety for wives in Western-societies. You only have to become free from prejudice and the advice offered in Quran becomes obvious and relevant. The statement that Quran condemns women is a myth. Where in fact it protects and safeguards them; like does, no other governance. Women rights in Islam are of such high set-standard that many legislation even today fail to give them, their true dignity.
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